Tools to Support Family Functioning

Raise awareness. Educate the entire family about adult ADHD. Children old enough to understand the condition will be better able to cope with an ADHD parent's impatience, forgetfulness, or less-than-consistent involvement in family life. This can be especially helpful for an ADHD child, who may feel more empathy for a parent struggling with symptoms similar to his own.

Strive for structure. De-clutter the household environment and establish a consistent daily routine -- for the entire family. This minimizes distractions so the ADHD adult can focus on family demands, like completing household chores and staying involved in their kids' day-to-day activities. Can't get organized? These keep-it-together tools can help.

Stay calm. Stress-reduction techniques - like exercise, yoga, or tai chi - can help an ADHD adult keep unstable emotions in check. So can ADHD support groups and behavioral therapy, and it's important to take any doctor-prescribed medications consistently. Also consider hiring an ADHD coach, a specialist trained to help ADHD adults manage stress and address problems with communication and procrastination.

Channel excess energy. The ADHD adult's boundless energy has an upside when it's directed toward high-energy activities, like playing with the kids, going on family outings and vacations, coaching a child's sports team, or working with others on home projects. Learn 6 ways to put ADHD symptoms to positive use.

Keep the lines open. Schedule regular family round tables to talk through and brainstorm solutions for family problems and conflicts. Maintain eye contact, listen carefully, and try to remain calm and nonjudgmental during these family discussions.

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